I have the interesting fortune of coming from a broken home. Fortunately, the legacy ends with me.

I don't have the permission to share online what this dysfunction has done to my siblings and their families, so I can only share what turns out to be unique for me.

What I do know is that no credit goes to my mother and only some goes to my father for who I am in terms of a father or a husband or the woman I have joined with to become one. As is said often, you can't teach what you don't do.

My distinct vocation is to be a husband and a father.

My wife is the secondmost important person to me in the entire universe. She holds a tier lower than Jesus, and is very understanding of that.

My children are subordinate to the love I have for Beth. I cannot love my children if first I do not love my Father and my Wife.

Love comes from the Father. God is Love. My Wife receives the gift I get from God, and together we pass it on to our children.

Love is a verb.

I am not my children's friend. We are buddies, and they distinctly know that we are not friends. I will never be friends with my children. The relationship we have is much too important to reduce it to that levele.

You become like those you associate with.

So I associated with a man who is the penultimate husband and father. He is Bob Novak, my godfather and my wife;s father.

My friends are also happily married, and the vast majority of them have come from divorced families, as well. Those that are seek the same thing I do - to not repeat the selfishness of our parents.

Divorce, of course, by its very nature, is selfish. It is the result of never recognizing that the two have become one, and therefore cannot be separated.

Do I disagree with my wife? Do we have arguments? Yes. Of course. Sometimes the ill will lasts for days. However, this is supposed to happen. If two people agree on everything - one is not necessary!

I believe that my generation, a generation of latchkey kids from one-parent families, will change the moral compass of this world. The great experiment failed, and we are teaching our children such.

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